Initially, I came to Vy Dara calling myself a looner, a term assigned to me by the internet for being aroused by seeing women around balloons.

Please know that as an s-type your voice matters and you can take all the time you need to feel safe with someone before submitting to a D- type in any way.

"It has been a while since someone intentionally asked me to engage in such a unique blend of intensity and tenderness—asking to be beaten and then held close afterward. When he gifted me the boxing gloves…..

One of my most favorite experiences of being human is the profound intimacy that I sometimes….

The power of connection in the realm of Tantra and or BDSM practices, such as those offered by a Tantra provider and or Dominatrix, is profound and multifaceted. I believe that at its core, these experiences are about creating a safe and consensual space where individuals can explore their desires, vulnerabilities, and boundaries. This connection can serve as a powerful catalyst for healing, allowing clients to address emotional wounds, enhance their self-awareness, and cultivate a deeper understanding of their own bodies and desires.

Creating content has become a transformative journey for me, challenging me to confront and navigate my insecurities surrounding body dysmorphia. There was a time when I felt so overwhelmed by my self-perception that I chose to isolate myself, believing I was "too ugly" to engage with the world. This cycle of negativity was not only painful but stifling. However, the birth of my daughter marked a pivotal point in my life. I realized that I wanted to be a positive role model for her, someone who embodied self-love and self-acceptance.

A few years ago, I was introduced to the concept of safe words and have slowly been incorporating them more and more into my intimate, community, and friendship relationships. I've been incorporating them into my RDBSMA conversations during 'B' boundaries and found them very useful in relating to others, especially intimate partners. 

In the somewhat obscured world of sex work, there exist stereotypes, some earned and some the fodder of the fantasy-inspired corners of our own lusts and desires. Conversations, deep conversations, meaningful conversations; these are possible, though not common in the realm of the one-night soiree. Sex workers inhabit that rarest of niches in our popular imagery; if you are familiar with the client-provider dynamic and the reasons that they are pursued, then you are privy to the centuries-old necessity for connection and desire to be desired. Conversely, if you are unfamiliar with this secret world within the world, then the dance that happens between two consenting parties may seem forbidden, sinful, and historically, criminal. Which is a goddamned shame.

Therapeutic sexual touch, as well as sexual health, play a significant role in maintaining the overall well-being of individuals, even during the dying process. While it might seem counterintuitive to consider these aspects during such a sensitive time, they can greatly contribute to the comfort, dignity, and emotional support of those nearing the end of their lives.